What Is Life Coaching
The other day, someone asked me, “What does a life coach actually do?” If you’ve ever wondered the same, this post is for you. I break down how coaching helps you stop spinning, get clear, and make powerful decisions in every area of your life—from food and body to business and relationships. It’s not therapy. It’s future-focused, empowering, and life-changing.
The other day I met someone who had never heard of a life coach before.
Totally understandable.
When I told them what I do, they looked a little confused.
And it made me think... maybe you’ve been getting these emails, reading my posts, liking them even, but still wondering:
“What exactly does she do?”
So let me break it down.
I’m a life coach.
That means I help you get from where you are now... to where you really want to be in your life.
I help you stop spinning, stop feeling stuck and start moving toward a life you are totally obsessed with.
Whether it’s your relationship with food, your body, a business, money, yourself, or you just want to feel better in life overall... I help you release the overwhelm and get back in the driver’s seat OF YOUR OWN LIFE!
There are so many ways we do this, through mindset tools, processing emotions, and really looking at your thoughts and beliefs, just to name a few.
And no... this isn’t therapy.
Therapy is great and very much has it's place but I’m not here to analyze and dig through your past.
I’m here to help you BELIEVE in and CREATE your future.
A life coach helps you with your indecision.
Honestly, that’s the number one thing I do…help you make powerful, grounded decisions.
Decisions about what you want.
How to move toward it.
And how to stop living on the fence in your own life.
On average, a person has between 50 to 100 open decisions floating around in their mind or "on their desk" at any given time, ranging from minor daily choices to major life decisions.
So, instead of spinning in:
“I don’t know what I want... I don’t know what to do... I don’t know how to get there...”
I help you get clear.
Clear on what you want.
Clear on what’s been keeping you stuck.
Clear on the kind of thoughts, feelings, and actions that will actually serve your future so you stop repeating the same patterns and start creating results you’re proud of.
Because nobody creates big results by living in “I don’t know", or constantly delaying decisions.
If you’re curious or want to know what this could look like for you, I offer a free consultation.
Just a conversation to see what’s really going on and if coaching is a fit for you.
Here’s the link to book:
Free Consult Calendar Link
Still not sure? Hit reply and ask me anything. I’m happy to talk it through.
PLUS—I’ll be sending another email later this week showing exactly how I’ve been helping clients and potential clients in real time, with real scenarios. So keep an eye out for that.
With all the love,
I’ll be in touch soon,
Allison
Your mind was not meant to witness this much tragedy.
Your mind wasn’t built to witness this much tragedy—yet we scroll, we absorb, and we wonder why we feel so off. This piece is a compassionate call to tend to your nervous system, reconnect with your body, and remember your power.
Your mind was not meant to witness this much tragedy.
This week, we saw tragedy unfold again.
Not just in the news, but in live videos of lives lost.
And I need to share this with you.
This is my way of serving the world when things feel disorienting.
Sharing this helps ME come back to center.
Because whether you knew the people or not,
if you watched those videos or just engaged in the emotional subjects, your nervous system registered it.
Your brain did exactly what it is designed to do:
scan for danger
process threat
try to make sense of the chaos
But our minds were not built for this kind of nonstop exposure to fear, grief, and horror on loop,
and neither were our nervous systems.
And yet, we scroll
Because the apps are designed to make us stay
To never look away
To keep going
This is not about ignoring injustice.
It is not about pretending nothing is wrong.
But rumination never serves us, no matter the subject.
This is about protecting the organ that runs your entire life, your brain.
And caring for the system that holds it all together, your nervous system.
And if you already carry stored trauma in your body,
this kind of exposure can amplify it.
It can deepen dysregulation and pull you further from peace.
When you do not tend to these things,
it does not just affect how you feel.
It touches everything:
Your sleep
Your patience
Your focus
Your health
Your energy
Your relationships
Your goals
Even your finances
And I will always remind you:
You still have power.
Here are a few ways to take care of your mind and nervous system right now:
Sit and feel.
Do not push it down. Do not rush it away.
Do not buffer with a substance.
Place a hand on your chest.
Feel your heartbeat.
Breathe.
Notice where in your body you feel the fear, the terror, the anger, or the grief.
Sit with it.
It is okay that it is there. It is a messenger, not a mistake.
And yes, if left unchecked, anger, fear, sadness, and rage can take you down.
But when we go into the body, we take the energy and momentum away from the thoughts.
When we stop resisting, emotions pass.
From there, we return to center.
We reconnect.
We ground again.
We remember: “We are safe now.”
Then say or do something from service or from love.
This takes practice
but your mind and nervous system are worth it.
Your life is worth it.
Your kids.
Your partner.
Your clients.
All of it is worth this work.
1. Put the phone down for longer periods.
We were never meant to witness constant tragedy.
Even a short break matters.
2. Regulate before you educate and ask yourself:
Before posting, reacting, or diving into a conversation, pause.
What is the result I want or need from this?
How do I want to feel right now, and how can I feel that ahead of time?
Is there something more of service I could be doing with my time right now?
Check in with your body.
Take three deep breaths.
Then decide if engaging is truly serving your best interest.
3. Give your brain a new input.
Dance
Go for a walk in nature. Feel the grass beneath your feet
Get a workout in
Listen to calming music
Laugh with someone
Create something
Call a friend
BE PURPOSEFUL IN THIS.
Let your brain know:
Beauty still exists
Love still exists
Because what you focus on, you get more of
AND IF YOU ARE STRUGGLING RAISE YOUR HAND AND ASK FOR HELP
These events are scary
They are sad
They are disorienting
They are tragic
And you still have a beautiful, beautiful life to lead
Let us protect the parts of you that carry that life forward
Please do not leave comments that are political or judgmental in nature.
They are not welcome here.
This space is not for debates or division.
This space exists to help you live a happier, more fulfilled life. a more CONNECTED life.
And yes, that will look different depending on what is going on in your life and in the world.
But no matter what, it always starts with one thing:
your brain and your nervous system.
This is a space for true connection, love, healing, and safety for all humans.
And honestly, we need more of these spaces and I am here to do my best to create that
worry vs. concern
Hello again, friends!
How many things have you worried about in your life?
How many things have you worried about today?
Worry is ruminative speculation of what will go wrong. An anticipation of worst case scenarios and basically a form of self torment.
Very much a "what if" type of thinking.
Sometimes things genuinely need our attention and so that is where we can choose concern over worry.
Concern is a calculated rational assessment of the actual potential problem. Concern is more fact based and is very much constructive.
Would you rather deal with facts? Or fiction?
When we come from a place of concern vs worry we can think clearer.
Worry is fixating on a pain in the body and says "What if I have a terminal illness?..."...which just leads to panic.
Concern is "If I continue to feel this way I will make an appointment with a doctor."
Concern leads to problem solving.
Worry is living in the future (which isn't possible) and is just a habit.
Wait...I will say that one again.
Worry is just a habit. That is all.
Because the unknown is so uncomfortable we come up with worse case scenarios in our head to create the illusion of control of our future. But, it doesn't prepare us. It just diminishes our ability to handle situations.
Concern is living in the present with action taking. It is a normal reaction to a problem or challenge.
Worry comes from lack of faith and makes us retreat.
Concern comes from confidence and faith in ourselves and creates action.
Ask yourself "Do these thoughts serve me and my situation or do they just hurt me?"
We will never eliminate bad things from happening. But we can eliminate needless rumination that brings negativity and panic into our lives.
Remember worry is a habit. If you find yourself in rumination just pause. And choose again.
My clients are learning how to recognize and stop the ruminating thoughts in their tracks.
I help my clients feel better. That is what I do.
Keep going and expect miracles, are you worried?