What Is Life Coaching

The other day I met someone who had never heard of a life coach before.

Totally understandable. 

When I told them what I do, they looked a little confused.

And it made me think... maybe you’ve been getting these emails, reading my posts, liking them even, but still wondering:

“What exactly does she do?”

So let me break it down.

I’m a life coach.
That means I help you get from where you are now... to where you really want to be in your life.

I help you stop spinning, stop feeling stuck and start moving toward a life you are totally obsessed with.

Whether it’s your relationship with food, your body, a business, money, yourself, or you just want to feel better in life overall... I help you release the overwhelm and get back in the driver’s seat OF YOUR OWN LIFE! 

There are so many ways we do this, through mindset tools, processing emotions, and really looking at your thoughts and beliefs, just to name a few.

And no... this isn’t therapy. 

Therapy is great and very much has it's place but I’m not here to analyze and dig through your past.
I’m here to help you BELIEVE in and CREATE your future.

A life coach helps you with your indecision.

Honestly, that’s the number one thing I do…help you make powerful, grounded decisions.

Decisions about what you want.
How to move toward it.
And how to stop living on the fence in your own life.

On average, a person has between 50 to 100 open decisions floating around in their mind or "on their desk" at any given time, ranging from minor daily choices to major life decisions.

So, instead of spinning in:
“I don’t know what I want... I don’t know what to do... I don’t know how to get there...”
I help you get clear.

Clear on what you want.
Clear on what’s been keeping you stuck.
Clear on the kind of thoughts, feelings, and actions that will actually serve your future so you stop repeating the same patterns and start creating results you’re proud of.

Because nobody creates big results by living in “I don’t know", or constantly delaying decisions.

If you’re curious or want to know what this could look like for you, I offer a free consultation.
Just a conversation to see what’s really going on and if coaching is a fit for you.

Here’s the link to book:
Free Consult Calendar Link

Still not sure? Hit reply and ask me anything. I’m happy to talk it through.

PLUS—I’ll be sending another email later this week showing exactly how I’ve been helping clients and potential clients in real time, with real scenarios. So keep an eye out for that.

With all the love,
I’ll be in touch soon,

 Allison

worry vs. concern

Hello again, friends!

How many things have you worried about in your life?

How many things have you worried about today?

Worry is ruminative speculation of what will go wrong. An anticipation of worst case scenarios and basically a form of self torment.

Very much a "what if" type of thinking.

Sometimes things genuinely need our attention and so that is where we can choose concern over worry.

Concern is a calculated rational assessment of the actual potential problem. Concern is more fact based and is very much constructive.

Would you rather deal with facts? Or fiction?

When we come from a place of concern vs worry we can think clearer.

Worry is fixating on a pain in the body and says "What if I have a terminal illness?..."...which just leads to panic.

Concern is "If I continue to feel this way I will make an appointment with a doctor."

Concern leads to problem solving.

Worry is living in the future (which isn't possible) and is just a habit.

Wait...I will say that one again.

Worry is just a habit. That is all.

Because the unknown is so uncomfortable we come up with worse case scenarios in our head to create the illusion of control of our future. But, it doesn't prepare us. It just diminishes our ability to handle situations.

Concern is living in the present with action taking. It is a normal reaction to a problem or challenge.

Worry comes from lack of faith and makes us retreat.
Concern comes from confidence and faith in ourselves and creates action.

Ask yourself "Do these thoughts serve me and my situation or do they just hurt me?"

We will never eliminate bad things from happening. But we can eliminate needless rumination that brings negativity and panic into our lives.

Remember worry is a habit. If you find yourself in rumination just pause. And choose again.

My clients are learning how to recognize and stop the ruminating thoughts in their tracks.

I help my clients feel better. That is what I do.

If you are a chronic worrier and want help changing click here and let's have a conversation about how I can help you, too.

Keep going and expect miracles, are you worried?

-Allison

3 good ways to look at failure

Happy Day Everyone!

Failure is always a loaded topic with clients so I want to help everyone see it a bit differently.

How willing are you to fail?

When you're striving to achieve a new personal or professional goal, make a life change, develop a new habit, or transform yourself, failure is going to happen!

You are human, remember!

But, failure doesn't have to be dreadful, in fact, it can be a great thing!

It took me years to truly believe this—years and a lot of money spent on coaches to help me change my belief about failure.

I actually went from believing "I am a failure" , to believing, "failure doesn't exist"!

This is how I want you, my clients, everyone I meet, and especially my daughter to view failure when attempting to reach a new goal.

So, here are 3 shifts I made in helping me change my belief about failure.

1. Failing is just information. 
Failing is learning. It means you tried something and didn't get the result you wanted. It doesn't mean you are going backwards or you are incapable. It just means that road didn't get you there so you need to try a new road.

Along the journey make sure you assess what is working, what isn't working, and what you will do differently then keep going with that information.

This is key!

2. Failure just means you are taking action, which builds resilience and momentum. 
Failing means you are taking the risks needed to get the new result in your life you want. Congratulations! Facing and overcoming failure builds mental and emotional resilience. Each failure tests your commitment and persistence toward your goals. In that journey you are becoming more of who you were meant to be. Again, congratulations! The opposite of failure is doing nothing. You are no longer pursuing your goals when you do nothing.

If you allow it, failure also teaches you to handle setbacks with grace and determination.

Would you rather fail taking action or take no action at all and get zero results?

3. Failing is saving you time. 
Yes, failing saves time. Failing means you will never go down that road again. You will know it didn't work OR you will redo it in a way that could work better. Failure can create efficiency if you allow it to.

I look at every failure as it is just information. That I am learning. I am getting closer to learning what the path is to my next goal. That I am taking action and I will eventually get to the result I want. This creates excitement and curiosity!

That's it!

This is what I do for my clients as well. 
I hold belief that they can achieve any goals they desire. 
So failing is just information of what isn't working. As long as they keep at it, in time, the results will come!

But it always starts with what you are believing about your failures.

Belief matters.

If you are not willing to put yourself out there and risk failure then you probably aren't succeeding at the level you could.

I can help you with this! 
One free call to see if we are the right fit. On that call you will gain clarity on why you may be struggling or how to get to your goals faster. Such invaluable knowledge whether we work together or not. CLICK HERE to schedule a time that works for you.

Expect miracles my friends, even in the failures,

-Allison