What Is Life Coaching

The other day I met someone who had never heard of a life coach before.

Totally understandable. 

When I told them what I do, they looked a little confused.

And it made me think... maybe you’ve been getting these emails, reading my posts, liking them even, but still wondering:

“What exactly does she do?”

So let me break it down.

I’m a life coach.
That means I help you get from where you are now... to where you really want to be in your life.

I help you stop spinning, stop feeling stuck and start moving toward a life you are totally obsessed with.

Whether it’s your relationship with food, your body, a business, money, yourself, or you just want to feel better in life overall... I help you release the overwhelm and get back in the driver’s seat OF YOUR OWN LIFE! 

There are so many ways we do this, through mindset tools, processing emotions, and really looking at your thoughts and beliefs, just to name a few.

And no... this isn’t therapy. 

Therapy is great and very much has it's place but I’m not here to analyze and dig through your past.
I’m here to help you BELIEVE in and CREATE your future.

A life coach helps you with your indecision.

Honestly, that’s the number one thing I do…help you make powerful, grounded decisions.

Decisions about what you want.
How to move toward it.
And how to stop living on the fence in your own life.

On average, a person has between 50 to 100 open decisions floating around in their mind or "on their desk" at any given time, ranging from minor daily choices to major life decisions.

So, instead of spinning in:
“I don’t know what I want... I don’t know what to do... I don’t know how to get there...”
I help you get clear.

Clear on what you want.
Clear on what’s been keeping you stuck.
Clear on the kind of thoughts, feelings, and actions that will actually serve your future so you stop repeating the same patterns and start creating results you’re proud of.

Because nobody creates big results by living in “I don’t know", or constantly delaying decisions.

If you’re curious or want to know what this could look like for you, I offer a free consultation.
Just a conversation to see what’s really going on and if coaching is a fit for you.

Here’s the link to book:
Free Consult Calendar Link

Still not sure? Hit reply and ask me anything. I’m happy to talk it through.

PLUS—I’ll be sending another email later this week showing exactly how I’ve been helping clients and potential clients in real time, with real scenarios. So keep an eye out for that.

With all the love,
I’ll be in touch soon,

 Allison

The belief lid.

Happy September, Y'all!

My business coach once told us this next story. She referenced it many times saying it was done by a scientist. Full disclosure: as I researched for this newsletter, I searched the web for statistics but found little about the actual study.

BUT, I literally believe whatever any of my coaches have told me. None of them have ever steered me wrong so now I offer it to you....

Picture a collection of fleas in a glass jar.

These tiny creatures, driven by their instinct to leap to extraordinary heights – up to a staggering 100 times their own weight, soaring as high as 20 centimeters – would naturally surpass the confines of the jar.

But then, a lid is firmly placed on top of the jar. Unfazed by this obstacle, the fleas, driven by their innate nature, now pound against the lid, only to be constricted by the lid and plummet back to the bottom.

Over time, they start to jump a bit lower, instinctively avoiding the painful collision with the lid. Eventually, they cease hitting the lid altogether.

Fast forward as they are untouched for three days, the lid is removed, and you won't believe what happens. The fleas, having learned the safe maximum height they can reach without injury, never again attempting to leap out of the jar.

Never again.

What's even more fascinating is that their offspring perpetuate this behavior indefinitely. The new standard of leaping height becomes ingrained and passed down from generation to generation. These fleas, in essence, have conditioned themselves to jump lower, convinced that anything higher is impossible, even when the opportunity is there.

Now, you might think, "What relevance does it have for us humans?"

Here's the twist...we humans possess an unparalleled advantage in the animal kingdom: our capacity for rational thought. Yet this is directly connected to our setbacks.

We are creatures of reason. Our beautiful brains are woven with intricate thought processes, ideas, and analytical capabilities combined with thought associations, memories and experiences. What we see in our surroundings, the people we interact with, the knowledge we acquire, all combine to shape our perception of our reality.

In essence, the environment we grow up in and live within molds our identity and influences our thought patterns or beliefs.

What paradigms have you created as a result of the setbacks you've encountered? What do YOU believe is your true capability? The ability to shape the life you aspire to lies within your grasp, but it is absolutely born in your mind first. Adversity is inevitable, but if you refuse to let these challenges dictate how you see your world, viewing them as temporary obstacles rather than permanent barriers, you'll be amazed at what you can really accomplish.

I ask you...where or what is your belief lid?

Expect miracles friends and jump a little higher,

-Allison

What is your capacity?

Happy Day, Friends!

Did you ever stop and ask yourself what is your capacity?

There is a great autobiography by David Goggins called "Can't Hurt Me"

David is a retired navy seal (among other things) and endured 3 hell weeks within a one year period along with running on two broken legs.

Read his book.

He has now dedicated his life to persistently building his tolerance to pain and discomfort and has defied many odds in the process. A process that literally started with his thoughts.

He fascinates me.

See, our capacity is born and evolves in our own mind first.

Goggins is a human just as we are. So if he can do it why can't we?

Now you may not want to run on two broken legs but that isn't the point.

Humans are more capable then they think they are. There are many stories of human beings pushed to the brink and in certain moments doing miraculous things they never knew possible. David Goggins being one of many.

So I will ask you again.

What is your capacity?

Do you really even know?

Does anyone really know?

In my opinion it is one of the most important and profound questions to explore. And if you have kids definitely a conversation to have with them. I am planting that seed early with my daughter that her capacity is her choice. Her parents won't define it, a boss won't define it, a partner, a teacher...nobody but her.

Many people determine their capabilities by looking at their family history or personal past, but this is often a result of habitual thinking patterns. This is why you also should never ask friends or family what they believe your capacity is as they tend to form judgments based on past experiences. It's not their fault; they can't always see us for what we can be, they see us for what we already are. Make sense? This is also a leading reason it is hard for us to see as well.

It's a common challenge for us to envision ourselves beyond our past.

This is one of the sole reasons I instantly became enamoured with coaching.

My coaches see past my day to day decisions and see my capabilities. She sees them before I do and without evidence. My first coach showed me my potential capacity at that time and although it felt impossible in those days it instilled new beliefs about what is possible which forever changed me.

My knees actually hit the floor in terror when I thought about taking the actions she was offering. It scared the living shit out of me and that is how I knew I had to run towards it. Guess what? I survived. I actually thrived and working with her fast tracked me to my goals.

You control your capacity. Not your environment. Not your past. Not your family history.

You do!

Now I challenge you.

When is the last time you challenged and pushed yourself through crushing doubt, fear or pain?

How did it feel when you got through to the other side and you lived to tell the tale.

What else can you do to expand your capacity?

I believe your brain is offering you things right now and I want you to run towards them. The things you say you will never do is definitely where you should start. :)

You deserve to see just how far you can take this one ride we all get.

Keep going, my friend, and expect miracles as if your life depends on it.

-Allison